Are you a private person reluctant to share details about your life?
Are you concerned that sharing too much will make you look unprofessional and without boundaries?
If you answer yes, I get it. I felt the same way.
Over the years, I have learned that sharing my story can impact the life and dreams of another.
Somehow, our stories connect us.
Why?
Here is this week’s mindset tip: Our vulnerability fuels excellent stories.
I remember the first time I shared the story of when I felt publicly humiliated by my grade one teacher. You see, my family had recently immigrated from Trinidad, and my accent and skin color became a reason for the kids to tease and bully me after my teacher claimed that I was not pronouncing any of the words correctly.
I started the day confident I could read, so I volunteered to read in front of the class. However, standing at the front of the class, frozen in place with tears running down my face, I soon came to regret that decision and vowed never to do it again.
Every time I share that story, audience members identify with how I felt and reconnect to their past feelings of embarrassment. Many feel compelled to share their story with me, often wanting to know how I overcame my fear of public speaking.
“There is a difference between vulnerability and telling people
everything about yourself. Vulnerability is a feeling.
Telling everyone about yourself is just facts and details.”
– Simon Sinek
Whenever I put pen to paper or present my work to an audience, I feel vulnerable and tempted not to share.
However, I now know that what gives my storytelling power differs from my triumphs and successes. Instead, it is sharing my most vulnerable moments — my experiences of loss, grief, self-doubt, fear, failure or even shame.
Being vulnerable and authentic while telling a story gives the audience insight into my challenges and disappointments. It provides a glimpse into the lessons and personal growth needed to achieve success.
When I find the courage to be vulnerable, my stories provoke an emotional reaction in the listener. Taking them on a journey that allows them to identify and emotionally connect with me, the characters in the story.
My vulnerability makes my brand relatable because my audience, the people I am trying to communicate with, also struggle.
No one likes to feel alone in their struggles. Stories create a human connection. They created a common ground for us to relate and talk about stress, insecurity, feeling foolish after making a mistake, and fear when trying something new.
It is time to craft your story. Trust me when I say someone is waiting to be touched, moved, and inspired by who you were required to become on the journey that created your story.
I feel as if this blog was written for me. I have let fear control my life. I’m so frustrated and angry that I’ve allowed it to happen.
Hi Dorothy,
Thank you for your heartfelt comment. I understand what it is like to allow fear to stop you from achieving your goals and dreams. Fear stopped me from speaking and stepping on the stage for almost 40 years. However, there is always time. I want to encourage you to face your fear because I believe you have something to contribute. Yes, I believe there are people waiting to hear your message.
I want to offer you our Speaker Playbook. I believe you will find it helpful. https://suzanhart.com/speaker-playbook/